Cannabis makes you feel sensual, increasing desire and it helps with painful sex, especially after childbirth.
it's a thing, ladies!
Remember that 'Sex and the City' episode where Charlotte proclaims "I have vulvadynia...my doctor said my vagina is depressed!" It was a funny episode but in real life painful sex is no laughing matter. I was diagnosed with that very thing when I was pregnant with my first child and it became much worse after the second.
I had a second degree tear from birthing my first child and an emergency c-section with my second that caused pain near the incision even years later. Sometimes it just hurt too much to have sex. I hadn't touched cannabis in 6 years and went back to it by vaporizing a mild sativa cultivar called Maui Wowie. I tried a small amount on a low temperature and wowie, no pain! Not only did I have NO pain but it felt velvety. I did some research and found this was a common occurrence, women who had painful sex and used cannabis, described it as feeling like velvet.
Cannabis gets you in the mood
It takes effort to climax during sex, an effort that just doesn't seem worth it when you're exhausted and you've been running a marathon all day. Sometimes a lack of desire can come from other reasons such as depression and anxiety, stress, illness or you just found yourself in a rut, it happens.
Cannabis makes you feel sensual, like you want to touch and to be touched. Cannabis acts like a curtain blocking out the stresses of the day, all the noise in your head goes quiet and lets you be in the now. It heightens your senses and puts you in the mood.
Science is proving cannabis increases sexual desire
"Sex therapist Lawrence Siegel noted that in particular, delta-9-tetrahydrocannabinol -- the cannabinoid THC -- appears to target a part of our brain associated with sexual arousal, at least in females..." Read the article
Less is more when it comes to Cannabis & sex
There's a right way and a wrong way to use cannabis for sex. Think of it like the difference between having a glass of wine or two to loosen up, compared to doing a line of vodka shots, it's easy to overdo it with THC. With cannabis is you do too much, you'll experience "couch lock" which is great for when you want to sleep or just watch a movie but not great for sex.
Regardless of the method you choose, go low and go slow. Also use cannabis before you have sex so you know how it's going to make you feel and if you're dose is right. Use a lower THC product if you're new to cannabis. Start with under 10% with dried flowers or in edibles 2 to 5 mg. With inhalation methods, inhale just enough to make you feel relaxed with a little elevation. This will enhance your sexual experience without risking couch lock or feeling too jittery and nervous. When you do too much THC it can make you sleepy, great for when you want to sleep but not for sex!
Prepare in advance
First prepare your environment, create a good mood with lighting, have a bath first to relax. An infused bath is even better! For edibles, time it so it's about 1.5 hours or so after you've taken the edible, before having sex. This will give the edible enough time to work and let you be in the peak of the elevation while you're having sex. For inhalation, start immediately after as with smoking or vaping, the effect peaks after 15 minutes or so.
Sex & cannabis without the high
The elevated feeling you get from THC isn't for everyone, there's other ways to improve your sex life without the intoxication. You can try taking CBD as it's good for alleviating pain and reducing anxiety however, don't expect to feel like much though. CBD likely won't enhance your orgasms or act like an aphrodisiac the way THC does, but it can help you relax if you're prone to anxiety or feeling stressed.
You can also use topicals, there's cannabis infused lubricant that can be applied directly to the vagina and suppositories (coming to the market after 2020) that will also help to alleviate any pain you might feel during sex.